Teen Dating Violence
- Physical: Most overt
- Mental/Emotional/Verbal: Subtle remarks to yelling and name calling
- Hard to discern because no physical marks
- Done under guise of love or concern, not anger
- Used to control behavior through humiliation and degradation
- Forced sex
- Coercion and use of threats
- Trying to get partner to go further than ready to
- Reproductive coercion and sabotage
- Cyber: Use of text, phone, internet, social networking, “sexting”, etc.
Differences from Adult DV
- Peer groups can dictate how couple/individual behaves
- Rights/choices of individual become subordinate
- Peer groups can support attitudes/behavior that breed violence
- Youth are volatile to influence of peers
- Jealousy (#1)
- Controlling behavior
- Quick involvement (attachment/love at 1st sight)
- Unrealistic expectations
- Abrupt mood changes
- 1 in 3 high school students have or will be involved in an abusive relationship
- 40% of teenage girls have been hit or beaten
- 1 in 5 teen dating couples report violence in their relationship
- 1 in 3 high school students experience sexual, physical, verbal or emotional violence in a relationship
- Local Stats, out of 53 students surveyed at THS:
- 13% have been in an unhealthy relationship
- 40% know someone that has been in an unhealthy relationship
Short and long term effects of Teen DV
- Short Term
|Isolation from family and friends||Threatening harm in any way|
|Loss of interest in activities||Insulting a dating partner in public|
|Making excuses for partner’s behavior||Witness imbalance of power/control|
|Noticeable changes is eating or sleeping||– Physical: arm always around the person|
|Alcohol or drug use||– Social: monopolizes person’s time|
|Loss of self-confidence||– Electronic: constantly checking messages|
|Strange bruising or injury||Damaging partner’s personal belongings|
|Distracted||Attempts to control what partner wears|
|Sudden request for schedule changes|
- Long Term
|Risky behavior||Loss of friends & respect|
|Depression||Physical health problems|
|Sleep disturbance||Disciplinary Consequences @ school|
|Inability to succeed in school||Criminal record|
|Become violent themselves|
I have the right to . . .
- Be treated with respect.
- Trust my instincts.
- Say “no” and be heard.
- Have my privacy respected.
- Accept a gift without having to give anything in return.
- Ask for help if I need it.
- Have someone point out my strengths and assets.
- Have loved ones support me.
- Have private time and my own space.
- Have others listen to what I have to say–even if they don’t agree.
- Live a violence-free life.
- Be good to myself.
I have the responsibility to . . .
- Communicate my thoughts, ideas and feelings clearly.
- Stick to my limits and boundaries.
- Respect the limits and boundaries of others.
- Listen to what others have to say and have the right to reject their ideas, but not the person.
- Treat others as my equal.
I have the right to be happy!